Angie Miller

 “The efforts which we make to escape from our destiny only serve to lead us into it.”   Waldo Emerson

 Warren W. Wiersbe states it perfectly, “Because God gave us freedom of choice, we can ignore the will of  God, argue with it, disobey it, even fight against it. But in the end, the will of God shall prevail; because ‘The counsel of the Lord stands forever.’(Psalms 33:11)

If we obey God’s will, everything in life holds together; but If we disobey, everything starts to fall apart.”

Introduction Book of Ruth (Ruth 1:1-5)

When I read the Bible I am very intentional about highlighting the “ifs” because they signify a condition and remind me of the reward! We are called to respond to these conditions which must be met before the promise can be fulfilled in our lives.  However, we often desire His blessing without putting in the necessary work. We do this when we embrace the trials or challenges that Scripture refers to after the “ifs.” These trials or challenges serve as a beautiful reminder of all the promises God holds for us when we obey His will. (It’s not a question of if we obey, but rather when we choose to obey!) His promises become even more delightful when we emerge victoriously from a challenging storm. We can confidently say, “ ..With God all things are possible.” (Matt. 19:26)

Webster’s 1828 dictionary states that, “IF is a condition or conditional sentence. It introduces a hypothetical scenario or requirement, often setting the stage for a consequence or promise.” We see this word 1,637 times in the Bible, highlighting its importance in conveying conditional statements and divine promises.

I challenge you not to allow the trials in your life to distract you from God’s promises and provision. Keep pushing forward!  Avoid letting unbelief become your default, escape route or back door. Scripture advises us, “Be careful then dear brother and sisters. Make sure that your hearts are not evil and unbelieving, turning you away from the Living God.” (Heb. 3:12) If you’re uncertain of the condition of your heart, read His promises in Scripture and view how you respond to them. Pay attention to the way you think as you read. Don’t merely read; allow the words to settle, heal, and nourish your soul. One example is, “For IF you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But IF you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your trespasses.” (Matthew 6:14-15)

What thoughts arise when you read this scripture? I challenge you to avoid becoming overly religious about this question. We can become so familiar with scripture that we unknowingly dilute the power and authority of His promise, turning it into something merely memorized. I challenge you to live, breathe, and consume scripture. This causes your faith to increase because you believe His Word comes from the very depth of our core!

Invite the Holy Spirit to reveal any doubts that might be hindering or rationalizing your response. If forgiveness is not an issue for you, feel free to move on to the next promise. If we are not careful this can complicate our ability to accept God’s promises and provision due to our reluctance to …..(you name it) The issue lies in our attention to major challenges, yet often the most difficult are the little, “…foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard…” (Song of Solomon 2:15) which can be equally difficult.

In Ruth 1, we encounter a couple named Elimelech and Naomi. The initial five verses of this Book reveal the challenges they faced. Scripture states, “There was a famine in the land of Canaan.” (Ruth 1:1) Because of this famine, Elimelech chose to move his family to Moab.

I can’t help but wonder if he considered the promise God made to His people before deciding to leave Canaan. Did Naomi remind him of God’s promises? Was she willing to endure this hardship, or did she agree to avoid this trial as well? Elimelech’s unbelief led him to take his family to Moab and everything started to fall apart. Our unbelief often drives us to flee from problems that, in reality, come with an amazing promise. If we stand ready to embrace the trials and trust God during these difficult times.

What we fail to realize is that the choices we make when facing difficulties will lead us to one of three paths: tolerance, avoidance, or signing up to trust God. Let’s look at the differences between the three.

When we tolerate the trials in our lives, it signifies that these challenges take control over us, leading to feelings of harshness and bitterness. What aspects of your life are you willing to compromise your emotions, habits, or beliefs that conflict with His Biblical Worldview? When we avoid the trials in our lives, it indicates that we may overlook the purpose that God intends to fulfill in our lives. It can denote the action of stopping something from occurring or distancing oneself from a person, location, or idea that is uncomfortable or induces anxiety. When we sign up for the trials in our lives, it implies that these challenges serve us, and “..God will work all things together for our good and His glory.” (Romans 8:28) We refuse to allow life’s challenges to seer our covenant with Christ.

Regrettably, Elimelech chose poorly, as stated in Ruth 1:3, “ Then Elimelech, Naomi’s husband, died, and she was left with her two sons.” Following that, verse 5, continues with, “ and then both Mahlon and Chilion also died, so the woman was left without her two sons and her husband.”  Naomi’s unbelief in God’s promise resulted in her enduring the sorrow of losing all the men in her life while residing in a foreign land, far from home.

I invite you to reflect on both past and present circumstances you are facing and assess how you have navigated challenges. What patterns do you notice? Keep in mind that God has granted us the freedom to choose; we can choose to disregard His will, debate it, disobey it, or even oppose it. The fundamental question is: do you struggle to accept and believe any part of the promise contained after the “If?” If you’re truthful with yourself, what is your usual default reaction: tolerance, avoidance, or committing to trusting God?

As I previously stated, approach the Lord in prayer. Ask the Holy Spirit to uncover the moments in your past and present where doubt has influenced your actions as well as the instances when you committed to trusting God. Embrace your errors and celebrate your victories. It’s crucial to acknowledge your successes and share them with others. After that, break off any familiar or generational curses through prayer and fasting.

Signing up to trust in God involves clinging to the cross during our trials and persevering until the moment of breakthrough arrives, fulfilling the promises and will of our Father!

2 Chronicles 7:14 states, “ IF My people, who are called by My Name, humble themselves, and pray and seek (crave, require as a necessity)  My face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear {them} from heaven, and forgive their sin and heal their land.”

Avoid falling into the trap of a negative and remorseful “if only” mentality. When your faith is in His promises, He empowers you to wholeheartedly accept and embody His Words. This guides us into aligning with His promises for our life.

LOT & HIS WIFE

‘When they were safely out of the city, one of the angels ordered, “Run for your lives! And don’t look back or stop anywhere in the valley! Escape to the mountains, or you will be swept away!” Genesis 19:17

“But Lot’s wife looked back as she was following behind him, and she turned into a pillar of salt.” Genesis 19:26

Run From: How we think and talk

Have we taken a moment to thank God for the countless times He has protected us from “Sodom” temptation in looking back? Understanding this principle is crucial! I would like you to start by reflecting honestly on how we communicate.

1. Do we communicate our yearning for or reminisce about our past “Sodom” experiences, clinging to the notion of them as our “good old days?”
2. Do we communicate our focus on God’s incredible promises, share our testimonies, acknowledge His faithfulness, get excited when He encounters us, and express our gratitude for His perfect timing? Let’s recall those moments when God opened doors for us to have these conversations with others.

Be cautious about the topics you discuss with others. There’s a distinction between sharing your testimony and dwelling on the past. I encourage you to reflect on your heart after each conversation to determine whether your words are rooted in the Word of God or influenced by worldly perspectives. Adopting this approach will strengthen us to persevere and achieve greatness! That’s a narrative worth sharing!

Discussing our past in a vague context without a clear purpose can be quite risky and foolish. Such aimless chatter is exactly what the enemy thrives on, as it provides him with opportunities to sow doubt in our beliefs, commitments, and even our healing journey. Certainly, Lot’s wife must have made significant choices before she ultimately decided to look back. Yet, the focus should be on how she/we finished, not just how we began. Instead of rationalizing her one critical moment, let’s learn from it.

This weekend a pastor said this quote, “The devil will wait 30 years for 1 moment to destroy our 30 years.”

Run From: Complacent and lose sight of our Purpose

Proverbs 1:32, “For simpletons turn away from me—to death.
    Fools are destroyed by their own complacency.”

Often, we overlook the choices we make which can result in a sense of complacency along our path. This complacency can hinder our development, creating a perilous situation, particularly if we end up stuck in our own version of “Sodom.” Here are some question to ponder:

1. Where do we find ourselves questioning God’s guidance?
2. In what areas are we permitting small “Sodom” to seem acceptable?
3. Are we steering the course, or is He the one steering?
4. What desires distract us and draw our gaze away from Him?

The story of Lot’s wife serves as an important reminder of how complacency can lead us to lose sight of our true purpose. Our purpose is to be “Clean” so God can use me!” If we allow ourselves to be distracted, even by minor things, we risk missing out on what we are meant to achieve as she did. I urge you to realign and position yourself for His mission. It’s essential to identify what occupies your thoughts daily; failing to do so stunt your spiritual growth.

Song of Solomon 2:15 states, “..the little foxes that spoil the vine, for our vines have tender grapes.” It’s the small things that matter.

Philippians 3:14-15, ” I press on toward the goal to win the [heavenly] prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. All of us who are mature [pursuing spiritual perfection] should have this attitude. And if in any respect you have a different attitude, that too God will make clear to you.”

Run From: Indecisiveness

In our most difficult times, it can be hard to feel His presence. However, when we take a moment to reflect, we often discover that God has been with us every step of the way. His timing is perfect. ” ….Yet God made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end.” ( Eccl. 3:1-11)

Our hesitation to progress frequently arises from the tempting allure of earthly delights. This becomes clear when we encounter pressing choices, as our responses often expose our underlying uncertainties. The scripture remind us in verse 16, “When Lot still hesitated, the angels seized his hand and the hands of his wife and two daughters and rushed them to safety outside the city, for the Lord was merciful.”

Lot’s indecisiveness had a profound impact on his family, causing his wife to question the very beliefs they once held dear. It’s essential to identify the familiar spirits in our lives, as hesitation often bears negative consequences. If we take a moment for introspection, we should ask ourselves: “What is the root of our hesitation?” This question is vital. It can impede our personal growth, lead us to overlook opportunities, where our obedience lies, amplify our doubts, and can sometimes create confusion. Ultimately, it ensnares us in a cycle of turmoil. This uncertainty can than affect our spouse and children, putting our legacy at risk. As highlighted in James 1:6, “But when you ask him, be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind.”  

Run From: What causes you to look back?

What prompted Lot’s wife to glance back? this question leads me to ponder: What drive me to revisit my own history? Reflecting on past experiences can provide meaningful insight, but if we linger there too long, it can impede our growth in the present. I truly believe there are appropriate times and places to reminisce about the past, but it’s essential to do so in a safe environment where the Holy Spirit is welcomed to prevent triggering unresolved feelings.

In the biblical narrative, they were cautioned against looking back, yet she made that choice. This serves as an important reminder of the consequences that can arise from ignoring divine guidance. These consequences may not always manifest as physical demise, but they can certainly lead to a spiritual decline. What fuels your urge to look back? Is it a desire or a joyful memory? A wish to share your story? Or is there something unresolved that you haven’t fully confronted?

These inquiries are crucial because, as we reflect, we may yearn for the significant moment that has influenced our current path. Which aspects of your past do you see as, “God redeemed,” yet still find yourself nostalgically recalling your “old Sodom” with a sense of pride, perhaps without even realizing it? It’s important to distinguish between looking back and sharing your narrative without being bound to those experiences. Have we truly moved on from those chapters in our lives? Are they genuinely forgotten? Or is there still healing to be done, especially since this is a story we often revisit in different seasons of our lives?

RUN TOO JESUS

What we often overlook is that Jesus is for us not against us! He also inspires fellow believers to pray for our shackles to be removed, our eyes to see, and to be completely delivered. How frequently do we lose sight of the fact that Jesus communicates with the Father on our behalf? These scriptures remind us of this truth.

• Who then will condemn us? No one—for Christ Jesus died for us and was raised to life for us, and he is sitting in the place of honor at God’s right hand, pleading for us.” Romans 8:34
• “My dear children, I am writing this to you so that you will not sin. But if anyone does sin, we have an advocate who pleads our case before the Father. He is Jesus Christ, the one who is truly righteous.” 1 John 2:1
• “Therefore he is able, once and forever, to save^[a] those who come to God through him. He lives forever to intercede with God on their behalf.” Hebrew 7:25

Take a moment to reflect:

1. In which aspects of your life is the Holy Spirit actively trying to steer you clear of peril? Are you holding back or are you choosing to let go?
2. Have you noticed how the prevailing culture’s desires, attitudes, and indifference influencing your life.
3. Have you permitted the Holy Spirit to sanctify your existence? This involves being set apart, committing yourself entirely, relinquishing control, rejecting fear, and embracing devotion.
4. Are you cultivating a deeper affection for Jesus, nurturing a childlike faith and trust, and being obedience to the guidance of the Holy Spirit?

Stay alert and avoid becoming too comfortable with your successes, as the Holy Spirit is continually inviting us to draw near to Him: step by step, moment by moment, day by day. As we move forward, we should seek His guidance to remove any obstacles that cause us to hesitate or distract us. While Christ can pave the way ahead, the decision to embrace that path or delay it rest with us. Why is this important? When we find certain sins easy to accept, we start to rationalize them. We might think, “This won’t lead to serious consequences, so I can just ignore it and keep going.” In doing so, we unwittingly hand the enemy a key to our hearts, making the temptation to look back seem harmless.

Embracing progress demands certain traits: owning our choices, gaining wisdom from our errors, cultivating resilience, daring to take fresh risks, recognizing that setbacks are integral to growth, welcoming feedback, and having the courage to rise, brush ourselves off, and continue our journey together!

EVE

“The woman was convinced. She saw that the tree was beautiful, and its fruit looked delicious, and she wanted the wisdom it would give her. So she took some of the fruit and ate it. Then she gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it, too.” Genesis 3:6

“I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy, and in pain, you will give birth. And you will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you.” Genesis 3:16

Our adversary is quick to make claims through deceptive implications. This is why it’s imperative for our identity as women to be anchored in Christ’s firm foundation. It encourages us to boldly accept the authority and strength we hold as daughters of God. Without this grounding, we risk our identity becoming misleading. In this story, it’s easy to critique Eve’s decision to eat the apple. I encourage you to take a moment to pause and ask yourself, “What deceptions do I tolerate, justify, and then consume?” Focusing on the Cross empowers us to stand firm and expose the temptations that arise from our choices. Today, let’s allow Christ to deliver us from all forbidden fruit!

Consider these reflective questions: What steps can we take to effectively protect our lives? Are we setting clear boundaries? What kind of environment are we fostering in our household? What type of content are we engaging with on our phones and televisions? What entertainment do we choose? What jokes or gossip do we share? How do we behave in the privacy of our home? All of these questions reflect as a reminder of our stance in what we tolerate.

In our new covenant with Christ, scripture tells us, “… anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” (2 Cor. 5:17) Our enemy aims to take advantage of our vulnerability. Thinking that he can entice us, convincing us with “ his version of the truth” about our spiritual condition. Satan’s goal is to dismantle our sense of self. He does this by undermining the sanctity of our marriage. He creates chaos within God’s family and tries to affect both our physical and spiritual lives.

Each of us has a distinct threshold at which we become open to negotiation or compromise. As long as these limits exist, we find ourselves tempted to engage in behaviors we know we should avoid. It’s crucial to examine whether there is any resentment or hostility within us when submitting to authority. Fake submission can be detrimental to our spiritual journey. Let’s be honest about it- it’s a form of rebellion! If you feel voiceless, seek guidance from the Holy Spirit to help you express yourself. Your voice is important, but it’s the intention and attitude behind it that truly shapes your response.

A more pressing question to consider is: what are your non-negotiable? What makes you firmly set boundaries and declare, “That’s enough!” These same temptations are prevalent in our society today. When believers slowly begin to embrace secular mindsets, they start to mirror the behaviors around them. “For the world offers only a craving for physical pleasure, a craving for everything we see, and pride in our achievements and possessions. These are not from the Father but are from this world.” We must stay alert when we start to feel less offended by our sins. If not, we start to tolerate them instead of rejecting them.

Jesus came to redeem the fruit from the tree where Eve was misled. He bore our burdens and sacrificed Himself on the cross (the Tree) to break off our generational curses. (The sins of our ancestors and our transgressions) The cross has not only redeemed us but also restored our bloodline. This empowers us (through Christ) to cancel out any agreements we have made. We can see this in our lives, our spouse’s lives, and within our family.

Testimony: I spent time in solitude with the Lord. I asked the Holy Spirit, “What can I do to be a better wife?” I also inquired, “How can I support my husband more effectively?” It was a sincere question. I truly desire to live righteously and mirroring what the word of God calls, “A Woman of God!” Yet, there was an unsettling feeling within me. The Holy Spirit replied, “What hidden control issues, manipulation, and personal desires have you been feeding your husband?” This phrase caught me off guard and offended me. In my mind, I began to justify my actions. Suddenly, my initial reaction was to turn and walk away. I was frustrated and wished I never asked the question. I got up. I started to leave my room when suddenly l felt a gentle urge to return to Scripture.

I opened to Genesis chapter 3 and found the verse that stated, “..you will desire to control your husband.” At that moment, a profound realization struck me! I began to think back on all the instances where I had tried to impose my wishes on him. It dawned on me that I had prioritized my desires over God’s plan. Regardless of whether my reasons seemed justified, they didn’t excuse the intentions of my heart. I recognized that I had been offering my husband my wants “one” poisoned apple at a time. I was diminishing my husband’s strength and I was slowly peeling back his defenses. My actions yearned for him to yield to my desires. This act left him exposed and possibly spiritually deaf. Then, I would have the nerve to say, “When will you take charge as the man of this house?” Overwhelmed with emotion, I cried out to the Holy Spirit, “Please! Help me recall every instance I offered my husband an apple that led him astray. I choose to renounce those actions and seek true restoration.”

As I sat there, tears streaming down my cheeks. The Holy Spirit began to unveil each moment to me. I began renouncing the curses I had spoken, one by one. I lifted them off him and replaced them with blessings. These blessings reflected who Christ declared him to be. The process took time, obedience, and patience. When I was done cleaning out my house (temple), I called my husband into our bedroom. I wanted to repent and seek his forgiveness. I had been misled by the pride in my life. I looked deeply into his eyes. I declared, “I commit to wholeheartedly support you. I will follow your lead. I will submit to your authority no matter the cost.”

I started to vocalize everything the Holy Spirit had shown me. At that moment, I renounced and was delivered from a Jezebel spirit that I didn’t recognize was residing and controlling me. A profound transformation occurred within myself, my spouse, our marriage, and in our household. With each passing day, we recognized that our willingness to obey God positioned us under Christ’s authority and blessing.

The journey was undeniably tough on the physical level. However, the spiritual liberation makes it all worthwhile! I chose to submit, even though I had my reservations. It felt incredibly liberating to Know, trust, and believe that my husband can freely hear from God. Did he always do things right, No. But he was able to begin learning how to embrace his role as the man of God. He became free from my unrealistic expectations and need for control. This placed me in the role of becoming a healthy supportive helpmate and partner that he needed.

I encourage you to: Ask the Holy Spirit if you have fed any curses to yourself, your husband, or children. Take this time to hear His answers. Ask the Lord if these curses have opened doors that need to be shut -then listen. Remember, Jesus already paid the price for your freedom and Restoration! It’s time to redeem all the curses we have allowed to be tolerated in our family. We must cut these trees down from their roots. This fruit is no longer our identity! Today we redeem all our forbidden fruits and replace them with The Fruit Of The Spirit! Galatians 5:22-23, “But the fruit of the Spirit [the result of His presence within us] is love [unselfish concern for others], joy, [inner] peace, patience [not the ability to wait, but how we act while waiting], kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such things, there is no law.” Amen!

POTIPHAR’S WIFE

“…Joseph was a very handsome and well-built young man, and Potiphar’s wife soon began to look at him lustfully. “Come and sleep with me,” she demanded. But Joseph refused. “Look,” he told her, “my master trusts me with everything in his entire household. No one here has more authority than I do. He has held back nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How could I do such a wicked thing? It would be a great sin against God. ”She kept putting pressure on Joseph day after day, but he refused to sleep with her, and he kept out of her way as much as possible. One day, however, no one else was around when he went in to do his work. She came and grabbed him by his cloak, demanding, “Come on, sleep with me!” Joseph tore himself away, but he left his cloak in her hand as he ran from the house. When she saw that she was holding his cloak and he had fled, she called out to her servants. Soon all the men came running. “Look!” she said. “My husband has brought this Hebrew slave here to make fools of us! He came into my room to rape me, but I screamed. When he heard me scream, he ran outside and got away, but he left his cloak behind with me. She kept the cloak with her until her husband came home.” (Genesis 39:6-16)

What ignites the first spark of a lustful thought or gaze? When our cravings and longing are not fulfilled in Christ, they often seek satisfaction elsewhere. This often manifests as some form of sexual desire. A glance look from a lustful eye can unleash a flood of fantasies about an individual. Before we realize it, we may have already engaged in an emotional affair with them in our thoughts and feelings. “But I say, anyone who even looks at a man with lust has already committed adultery with him in her heart.” (Matt. 5:28 emphasized) This desire can quickly escalate, leading us to pursue whatever it takes to fulfill our wants. This yearning drives us to take control of our passions’ narrative. It is shaped by what we see and imagine. We pursue this at all costs.

This passage reveals that Potiphar’s wife insisted Joseph come to her and sleep with her. It was not a mere request or suggestion; it was a directive. In these opening verses, we can see her desire to manipulate the situation. She wants to emphasize their relationship and exert control over him. She steers the conversation and shapes the environment. She asserts her superiority over him. These traits reveal the characteristics of having a spirit of Jezebel.

Potiphar’s wife demeaned Joseph by trying to lure him onto her bed. She might have thought, “Isn’t he just a Jew and a slave? He works for my husband, which means he works for me too. With my husband absent, I hold the power, and Joseph is my subordinate. He must obey me.” She views Joseph as an object. She does not see him as a human being. When he rejects her advance, she soon turns on him. It’s crucial to pause and think. We must think about the times we have exploited others. This happens due to our lack of self-control and sense of superiority.

Exercise self-control is crucial for truly reflecting the Fruits of the Spirit! Without the indwelling of Christ’s spirit in our lives, we can’t genuinely access His self-control. This self-control serves as the foundation for His love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, faithfulness, and gentleness. (Gal. 5:22-23) In its absence, we face a counterfeit of Christ’s spirit. When we do not wholeheartedly commit our heart, soul, mind, and strength to Christ, we open the door to exploitation. This struggle does not always start with evil contempt.

Testimony: I remember a trip where our team leader was a remarkable man of God. At that time, my husband and I were still working through the challenges of our healing journey. As I listened to this leader speak, I felt drawn to the spirit he carried. Suddenly, troubling thoughts began to invade my mind. “Why can’t your husband be like him? Why are you wasting time fighting for a marriage when there’s someone who already has everything you need?” I tried to diminish these thoughts. Nevertheless, the enemy knew the desires of my heart for my marriage. He continued to exploit my vulnerability. The intrusive thought persisted as I began to envision this leader alongside me.

This incident made it clear that I still had a misunderstanding of what a covenant truly means. It highlighted that my desires were not aligned with kingdom principles. Instead, they were rooted in personal expectations and a heart condition that didn’t reflect God’s will. They excluded my spouse and leaned towards a fantasy rather than reflecting a covenant. If my thoughts had been kingdom-focused, I would have taken into account the wife of this man of God.

At that moment, the Holy Spirit intervened, saying, “Angie, what are you doing?” I quickly refocused and ran to my room! I fell to my knees and began to cry. Father, forgive me! I began to repent and asked the Holy Spirit to clean my heart, mind, soul, and spirit. I asked Him to cut off all the lies the enemy had used against me. These were lies meant to ensnare me and jeopardize our marriage. When I returned home, I told my husband what had happened. This assured me that the doors I opened were completely obliterated!

The significance of the Holy Spirit in our journey with Christ can’t be overstated. Joseph’s ability to withstand the advances of Potiphar’s wife stemmed from the fulfillment he found in his relationship with Christ. He faced temptation but did not yearn for it. His heart was already satisfied. This satisfaction enabled him to stand firm against such challenges. Our ultimate goal is to immerse ourselves so deeply in Christ that temptation loses its allure completely. We find ourselves lacking nothing! This means the enemy has no bait that can lure us in. We won’t get hooked!

Joseph made every effort to steer clear of Potiphar’s wife, ultimately fleeing from her when her persistence became too much. At times, simply trying to sidestep temptation isn’t enough. We must actively escape from it. This is especially true when the allure is strong, as it often is with sexual temptation. “Run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts. Instead, pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.” (2 Tim. 2:22)We either yearn for God’s will or indulge in the illusion that we can manage our own lives. Like Potiphar’s wife, the spirit of Jezebel seeks to dominate everyone and everything!

Reflecting on what you desire, crave, and long for reveals what spirit guides you. Do you surrender or do you seek to exert control? Take a moment for self-reflection. The toughest truths to face are often those we refuse to acknowledge. Do I desire to control Relationships, Money, and Governance? What about Information, Leadership, and Conversations? Or Platforms, Narrative, and Agenda? Do I wish to control Time, Decisions, and Environment? This includes Family, your image, and energy. Furthermore, sexuality and God?

Prayer,

Heavenly Father, I come before you today seeking clarity about my true desires and yearnings. Reveal the areas if my life that do not reflect your nature. Help me to identify and turn away from my struggles with self-control, which I am all too familiar with. Lead me away from the snares that the enemy sets to pull me back into old habits, especially the influence of the Jezebel spirit. I renounce any connection to this spirit and replace it with the Fruits of the Spirit. Holy Spirit, I surrender my life completely to you. I ask for your forgiveness for anyone, including…(name), whom I have tried to manipulate or control for my own benefit. I forgive myself for being deceived and deceitful. I release the shame and any negative feelings I carry from my past actions. I renounce who I was and I claim who you say I am. The Holy Spirit is the only one who has permission to be Lord over my life. I am a daughter fully surrendered to the Lord on Height- Jesus Christ! I desire, crave, and long only for you! AMEN!

DINAH

“One day Dinah, the daughter of Jacob and Leah, went to visit some of the young women who lived in the area. ² But when the local prince, Shechem son of Hamor the Hivite, saw Dinah, he seized her and raped her. ³ But then he fell in love with her, and he tried to win her affection with tender words. ⁴ He said to his father, Hamor, “Get me this young girl. I want to marry her.” Genesis 31:1-4

The teachings of God’s Word highlight that sexual intimacy is intended to represent a beautiful concept of “Unity in Diversity.” This concept reflects the nature and complexity of God’s design, demonstrating how various expressions can bring oneness, allowing us to grasp His true essence.

Rape fundamentally contradicts God’s intention, as it fails to reflect the mutual love and respect that He envisions in relationships. God would never exploit you for His gain and then cast you aside; such behavior is contrary to His character!

Dinah’s treatment was marked by both recklessness and cruelty. Shechem’s professed love for her cannot justify the horrific violation she endured. His actions and words demonstrate a significant disconnect from the moral values that align with God’s purpose for sexual intimacy. In Jewish tradition, any sexual misconduct that contravened God’s Law humiliated the victim and brought consequences for the perpetrator. Leviticus 18 in the Mosaic Law outlined penalties aimed at safeguarding individuals by categorizing sexual offenses as both sinful and criminal. 

What should encourage us and give us hope is: that disgrace and shame were among the many things Jesus bore on the cross in our place. This signifies our sole responsibility is to forgive, entrust, and allow the healing process to begin. When we accepted Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior over our lives, all our defilements were nailed to the cross and buried with him. 

We have the opportunity to embrace the cleansing power of Christ, which eliminates all impurities from our lives and makes us whole again. Although this may not instantly remove the pain or trauma associated with our experiences, it paves the way for healing to begin in every area of our lives, starting through our act of first forgiveness. 

My story: For a long time, I never thought this level of healing was possible. Throughout my life, I’ve faced numerous defilements and traumas: from enduring medical trauma, navigating affairs, barrenness, PTSD, female medical issues, dealing with miscarriage, exploring my sexuality, nonconsensual sex, and identity issues, to list a few.

The most challenging aspect of my journey wasn’t the events I faced, but the journey of recognizing, accepting, and embracing them to find genuine healing through forgiveness. Over time, I identified with my brokenness, as it began to define me. This familiar crutch became something I relied on, and the more I depended on it, the tougher it became to let it go. I had to consciously choose to take the initial step of allowing the Holy Spirit to free me from the burdens of trauma, shame, and self-blame for each defilement one step at a time. Confronting each issue left me feeling perpetually shattered and worthless. Some of my wounds were deeply embedded, while others were visible. I struggled with anger, as the toughest person to forgive was ultimately myself.

I’ve been saved since I was around fourteen, but it wasn’t until I turned twenty-five that I truly encountered God and made Him the Lord and Savior over my life. That moment marked a significant turning point for me. It was then that I caught a glimpse of hope illuminating the darkness, all thanks to the incredible power of the Holy Spirit! Gradually, the burdens I carried began to transform into opportunities for forgiveness and healing.

I chose not to embark on this journey alone or attempt to manage everything by myself. Instead, I reached out for support from those who had already found their way to freedom. I discovered a close-knit group of individuals I could rely on, who were willing to guide me along the right path. Although I didn’t always see eye to eye with their advice or fully grasp their perspectives. I trusted that they were genuinely committed to my journey of liberation and were attuned to the Holy Spirit’s guidance in my life. This trust enabled me to submit to their leadership, even when it was very challenging. I actively sought support from my church, engaging in marriage classes, Celebrate Recovery, inner healing classes, and women’s encounters. I also connected with my spiritual leader, who became my accountability partner and joined a life group. I felt secure in my church community, knowing that no matter how many times I stumbled, they would be there to lift me, dust me off, and walk alongside me without judgment. 

Trying to resolve matters on our own, in pursuit of justice or revenge, will never heal a wounded heart, mind, body, or spirit – only Christ possesses the power to bring about true healing! Will you allow Him to heal you, His way? This is the path to experiencing freedom from defilement-FORGIVENESS! You shouldn’t respond to others based on how they treat you. Instead, you should treat them as Jesus treats you!

“Because we have these promises, dear friends, let us cleanse ourselves from everything that can defile our body or spirit. And let us work toward complete holiness because we fear God.” (2 Cor. 7:1)

I pray and encourage you to seek the Holy Spirit for supernatural strength to let go of our hurts inflicted upon you and to find the grace to forgive yourself. Embrace reverence and trust in God; rush to the cross, cling tightly, and allow our Heavenly Father to unveil His amazing power in our lives! 

FAMILY OF ADAM AND EVE

“Now the man Adam knew Eve as his wife, and she conceived and gave birth to Cain, and she said, “I have obtained a man (baby boy, son) with the help of the Lord.” And [later] she gave birth to his brother Abel. Now Abel kept the flocks [of sheep and goats], but Cain cultivated the ground. And in the course of time Cain brought to the Lord an offering of the fruit of the ground. But Abel brought [an offering of] the [finest] firstborn of his flock and the fat portions. And the Lord had respect (regard) for Abel and for his offering; but for Cain and his offering He had no respect. So Cain became extremely angry (indignant), and he looked annoyed and hostile.” Genesis 4:1-5

Life in the Garden of Eden reflected the paradise of heaven on earth, where everything was in perfect harmony. If Adam and Eve had followed God’s guidance, they would have enjoyed eternal happiness. What compelled them to consider rebelling against God and forfeit such an amazing gift? Scripture tells us that God walked through the garden looking for them, (3:8) which emphasizes a profound personal relationship with God.

Yet, as time passed, it appeared their awe and reverence for God diminished over time. Familiarity can lead to complacency, causing us to underestimate the significance of submitting fully to God’s authority. This gradual shift can make us believe that we stand equally with God. While it may seem absurd, think about how we often overlook or downplay the divine power presented in the house of God and disregard the sacred space within ourselves where the Holy Spirit dwells.

Adam and Eve severed their bond with God when they chose to trust their judgment over His. This choice made them aware of their nakedness, prompting them to hide and rationalize their actions. By eating the forbidden fruit, they inadvertently caused a rift in both their covenant with God and their marriage covenant. Our marriages should reflect the nature and attributes of God! When our reverence for God diminishes, our hearts can become fragmented, leading to inconsistent loyalties. If we fail to confront this division in our marriage, it can affect our children and families, potentially causing lasting damage. Our children and family reflect the nature of our covenant. If our household is divided, that division will echo throughout generations. Ensuring that our family legacy stays untarnished is a commitment to securing the best possible future for our loved ones.

After they were banished from the Garden of Eden, Adam and Eve had two sons: Cain and Abel. In this narrative, we see Abel offered the finest portion as his gift, while Cain presented a gift. What led to the rift in the brothers’ devotion to the Lord? As parents, we sometimes tend to blame ourselves for not parenting effectively, not doing enough, or not doing it correctly. However, both possess the free will to choose a path so ultimately, they have a decision to make.

As we draw near to God, the Holy Spirit will expose existing generational curses that may be affecting us and lead us to the open doors that we need to confront and sever. Following Christ is a personal choice, regardless of our background. While society encourages us to point fingers, the truth is that we hold the responsibility for our own choices and decisions.  Shifting blame onto others does nothing to heal our hearts; instead, it fosters bitterness, anger, and a sense of entrapment. We start to witness this same development in Cain’s life.

Cain took Abel’s life and faced exile from the land. Adam and Eve not only mourned the loss of Abel but also the banishment of Cain. In a tragic twist, they lost both of their sons in such a short span. Their lineage became marked by disobedience, exile, and murder. While Adam and Eve may have perceived their act of eating fruit as a minor transgression, it’s evident how swiftly their sinful tendencies manifested into their offspring. What began as a simple act of disobedience spiraled into the grave act of murder. Adam and Eve’s rebellion was directed solely at God, but Cain’s actions turned against both God and humanity. A seemingly small sin can escalate. A small sin has a way of growing uncontrollably. I urge you to seek God’s guidance with your “little” sins before they turn into significant heartache and tragedy.

Jesus tells us, “Do you think I have come to bring peace to the earth? No, I have come to divide people against each other! From now on families will be split apart, three in favor of me, and two against—or two in favor and three against. ‘Father will be divided against son and son against father; mother against daughter and daughter against mother; and mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.” (Luke 12:51-53)

Jesus was also clear, that his arrival and presence frequently lead to discord and conflict. His call for a response can create rifts within families, as some decide to embrace His teaching while others turn away. There is no room for neutrality with Jesus; He requires unwavering loyalty and dedication, which can sometimes lead to the breaking of family bonds. When our children reach a certain age, it’s essential to entrust them back to God. Holding on too tightly can hinder -the divine plan- God has for their future. Relying on our desires to control our family dynamics instead of placing our trust in God can lead to increased conflict within our family. When we find ourselves bringing fights home, it often stems from helplessness. Instead of resorting to arguments, we should turn to prayer. It’s essential to seek guidance from the Holy Spirit, asking for direction in our prayer time for our marriage, children, and family, instead of placing blame for things out of our control.

Scripture tells us that, “Adam had sexual relations with his wife again, and she gave birth to another son. She named him Seth, for she said, “God has granted me another son in place of Abel, whom Cain killed.” (Gen. 4:25) Their family was divided into two factions: one that embraced temptation and wickedness, and another that was devoted to the worship of our Lord and Savior, represented through descendants of Seth. Seth was destined to succeed Abel as the leader of a faithful lineage, and it was through Seth’s descendants that God chose to bring forth Noah.

Choosing to follow Christ sometimes requires us to distance ourselves from those who manipulate or exert control over situations. At the same time, we must find the strength to step away from toxic individuals who aim to dominate our lives and families. This can be particularly challenging when it involves extended family members like siblings or parents. While sometimes division can be necessary, it’s important to remember that Christ can heal, restore, and mend any fractures in our relationships.

Take a moment to consider whether the divisions you are experiencing are a result of your commitment to Christ or if they are influenced by others’ suggestions. I urge you to seek the guidance of the Holy Spirit for yourself regarding the conflicts within your family. It may be worth reflecting on your role in the situation if you find yourself unwilling to forgive, harbor bitterness, or struggle to let go of grievances. Scripture tells us, “If you forgive those who sin against you, your Father in heaven will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive you!” (Matt. 6:14-15) When in doubt, discuss these issues with a spiritual leader who will tell you the “God’s truth” vs. what you want to hear. Any advice should always match up with the Word of God! Be honest with yourself, “What’s bringing division into your family?” Are your actions the cause of the rift in your family, or are your actions paving the way for healing and reconciliation? What legacy are you bringing into your family: division or loyalty?

Prayer:

Heavenly Father, we come before you seeking clarity on the influences of unbelief, doubt, and disobedience we’ve allowed into our family dynamics, whether as a daughter, sister, mother, or grandmother.  Scripture tells us, “…If we walk with the wise we become wise but if we associate with fools we will get in trouble.” (Prov. 13:20) Holy Spirit, reveal to me if  I am surrounding myself with wisdom or folly. I recognize this may be difficult for me to confront, but I am weary of the turmoil within my family. The constant fighting, arguments, and disagreements leave us forgetting what truly matters. I surrender everything to you so that our family can find peace. Your word assures me that, “.. I will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard my heart and mind as I live in Christ Jesus.” (Philip 4:7) I not only pray for my families peace but also for those….. who have wronged me. I choose to forgive ……who have caused division in my home and family. I also repent for ……allowing negativity to enter our home. I repent for my behavior.…. Thank you, Holy Spirit, for the restoration and unity you are bringing to my family. Even when the evidence is not visible, I will continue to believe in your promises!

RACHEL & BILHAH

“Then Rachel told him, “Take my maid, Bilhah, and sleep with her. She will bear children for me, and through her, I can have a family, too.” So Rachel gave her servant, Bilhah, to Jacob as a wife, and he slept with her. Bilhah became pregnant and presented him with a son.” Genesis 30:3-5

In this story, Rachel is engulfed in despair because she cannot conceive. Her heart is heavy with jealousy towards her sister Leah, who has already given her husband four children. The scripture tells us that Jacob was utterly devoted to Rachel, working tirelessly for fourteen years to prove his love to her. His affection for her was so intense that those years seemed to fly by.

Due to her inability to bear children, Rachel resolves to take extreme measures to change her circumstances. She struggled to believe that Jacob could love her despite her perceived shortcomings. She believed she had to prove her worth to him. Doesn’t this sound familiar? We often fall for the lie that we must earn His love through our actions. This falsehood drove Rachel to a deep desperation that didn’t include the “will of her Father.” Our enemy frequently baits us on our flaws, making us feel unworthy of fully receiving Christ’s love.

Jacob adored Rachel despite her barrenness, yet she remained fixated on her inability to give him children. Are we, like Rachel, missing this vital truth about our inherent worth? The scripture reminds us,”…We are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.” (Eph. 2:10) “Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes. God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to Himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure. So, we praise God for the glorious grace he has poured out on us who belong to his dear Son.” (Eph. 1:4-6). Jesus loves us unconditionally, regardless of the emptiness or inadequacies we may experience at times.

This constant struggle prevented Rachel from being the supportive helpmate Jacob needed. Instead, she manipulated him into being with another woman, all in her quest to have children of her own. Driven by her intense desperation, she pleaded with Jacob to be with Bilhah, hoping to bear him children. Already struggling with the challenges of sharing her husband with her sister, she thought it was wise to introduce another wife into the mix.

Why do we feel compelled to help God with His plans? Often, our attempts only complicate situations and create more chaos in our lives. Instead, we should trust in His divine will for our lives. I encourage you to, take a moment and approach God in prayer and seek His guidance regarding His plan for your life. Be attentive and avoid focusing solely on what you wish to hear. Remember, we have the Holy Spirit but we also have our inner self guide along with the enemy trying to steer us. Which of these influences holds the most sway in your life? If you are unsure, reflect on whether your true desires align with the teachings of the Word of God. Ignoring this can lead us to make decisions that claim “the Holy Spirit led me to… .” when, in truth, it was our desires at play. This can unintentionally harm those around us, similar to the situation with Bilhah.

What can we say about Bilhah, the maidservant who became one of Jacob’s concubine wives? She was more than just a servant; her life was profoundly shaped by the circumstances of her mistress. Bilhah faced the heart wrenching experience of having her children taken from her, caught in a web of complicated relationships with another woman’s husband. She encounters feelings of lost, invisibility, and a sense of worthlessness beyond her role as a servant.

Often, our thoughts can easily justify the pain we inflict on others, keeping us focused on ourselves rather than the needs of those around us. Take this time and reflect on those you might have inadvertently hurt in your quest for love, wealth, power, or even through the pull of your desires. Take this time and acknowledge our responsibility within our self-centeredness.

In our moments of desperation, we often overlook the possible consequences of our decisions. By recognizing our true worth, we can sidestep unnecessary pain. Are there decisions you’re making now, that might create challenges down the road? Trusting God can be tough when it seems like nothing is unfolding, but the weight of managing the repercussions of taking matters into our own hands is even more burdensome. Resist the temptation in thinking that God has forgotten you. Instead, embrace the patience and bravery needed to wait for His perfect timing. Don’t allow the mistakes of others to stain your conscience. The scripture reminds us, “Show your fear of God by not taking advantage of each other. I am the Lord your God.” (Lev. 25:17) Who do you fear or have reverence to? Your pride or Christ?”

Exploitation remains a reality even in our present day, whether we choose to recognize it or not. When we yearn for something deeply, we often go to extreme measures to achieve it, overlooking the consequences for those around us. This pattern can be seen in various aspects of life, including families, friendships, workplaces, religious communities, and marriages. Yet, if I were to ask the question, “Has anyone been hurt by your actions?” many of us might answer no, believing our “Good intentions” shield us from causing harm. Being in a state of desperation can lead to dangerous choices, pushing us to act in ways we never thought possible in our quest to alter our situation. So, What currently drives your sense of desperation? Christ’s Will for your life or your desperations?

PRAYER:

Father, your words remind me, “…I will be accepted if I do what is right. But if I refuse to do what is right, then watch out! Sin is crouching at the door, eager to control me. But I must subdue it and be its master.” (Gen. 4:7) I seek your forgiveness for letting my selfishness and understandable desperation lead me astray. I mistakenly believe I can manage the whispers of my pride. I repent for allowing my pride to deceive me into thinking that if my plans fail, I can simply wait for Your guidance after exhausting all my options. Father, forgive me for using You as my plan B, instead of completely surrendering to You.

Father, I seek your forgiveness for the pain I’ve caused, for using and abusing….. and I repent for my wrongful intention of …….. I choose to leave these burdens at the foot of the cross. I ask you to dispose of them like yesterday’s trash, ensuring I can never reclaim them again! Holy Spirit, I invite you to fill my home (body/soul) with your divine presence, so I can rely entirely on you! I give you permission to align and direct my desperation! Teach me to cultivate a deep hunger and thirst for living in your kingdom! In Jesus name! Amen.

REBEKAH

“Rebekah was very beautiful and old enough to be married, but she was still a virgin. She went down to the spring, filled her jug, and came up again. ¹⁷ Running over to her, the servant said, “Please give me a little drink of water from your jug.”¹⁸ “Yes, my lord,” she answered, “have a drink.” And she quickly lowered her jug from her shoulder and gave him a drink. ¹⁹ When she had given him a drink, she said, “I’ll draw water for your camels, too, until they have had enough to drink.” ²⁰ So she quickly emptied her jug into the watering trough and ran back to the well to draw water for all his camels.” Genesis 24:16-20

Abraham recognized the significance of a covenant and wished to bless his son with a Godly wife. A wife who would uphold God’s promises by bearing the promised descendants, while ensuring they would inherit Canaan. To achieve this goal, he entrusted his servant Eliezer with the crucial responsibility of finding the right spouse for Isaac.

If Abraham sought a wife for his son, how much more does Christ desire to provide the perfect bride for His beloved Son, Jesus Christ? We often overlook our worth and purpose because we forget we are the precious GIFT (His bride) for His cherished Son! This realization should transform how we perceive, how we position ourselves, and how we value ourselves as a bride.

For a long time, I wrestled with this idea because I felt He had settled for me rather than truly choosing me as His bride. It echoed in my mind: “I suppose I’ll take her as well.” Why did I feel this way? Because I diminished my value due to my past actions and the challenges I had yet to conquer. I was assessing my worth through my flawed viewpoint rather than believing how Christ viewed me. It’s time for us to stop disqualifying ourselves!!

The Father redeemed us lost sinners through His grace; the Son willingly sacrificed Himself for us; and the Holy Spirit chose to dwell within us. Together, these divine actions prepare us to be a fitting bride. Our mission is to glorify Christ on earth by the reflection in our marriage and His covenant here on earth. One day, Jesus will joyfully present us (His bride) in glory to His Father. WoooHoooo!!!

In this story, Eliezer recognized the importance of the task and remained steadfast in his mission. How would he then identify the ideal bride? Eliezer placed his faith in God’s promises and relied on divine guidance. He dedicated time to prayer, seeking God’s assistance, and remained aware of any signs of God’s intervention. Then he received an answer, “This is my request. I will ask one of them, ‘Please give me a drink from your jug.’ If she says, ‘Yes, have a drink, and I will water your camels, too!’—let her be the one you have selected as Isaac’s wife. This is how I will know that you have shown unfailing love to my master.” (Genesis 24:14)

Genesis chapter 24 serves as a powerful source of inspiration for those seeking God’s guidance in choosing their spouse. Even if you are already married, this message remains relevant, showing the limitless possibilities of what God can accomplish through us! It is essential to yearn for God’s will, engage in prayer, actively seek His direction, and remain receptive to His work in our lives. Isaac and Rebekah symbolize the marriage blessing that flows from within our Savior, Jesus Christ. This highlights the significance of our experience within God’s grand design of a covenantal marriage. Just as the Father sought a bride for His son, the Holy Spirit invites us to enter into a spiritual union with Him (Rom. 7:4). Grasping this idea allows us to bring a beautiful covenant into our earthly marriage.

What kind of bride do you aspire to be? Will you strive to exceed expectations and embrace the destiny that was “…placed within you, before you were placed in your mother’s womb?” (Jer. 1:5) Or will you settle for merely doing the bare minimum? This journey demands a deeper inner character, where our true beauty as a servant shines through! Such beauty is manifested in qualities like a strong relationship with God, devotion, passion, trustworthiness, courage, humility, open-mindedness, faithfulness, virtue, wisdom, fearlessness, generosity, honor, joy, and a woman of prayer.

Suddenly, Rebekah shows up at the well to carry out one of her daily tasks of drawing water from the well. Little did she realize that the stranger she was about to meet would lead her to become the wife of a prosperous man bound by a covenant with God. She would eventually give birth to Jacob, who would father the twelve tribes of Israel! What an incredible gift God has in store for her and each one of us! Are you embracing the inheritance placed within you or are you complacent with doing and receiving the bare minimum?

Quote from Marsden, “Make every occasion a great occasion, for you can never tell when someone may be taking your measure for a larger place.”

Rebekah possessed not only physical beauty but also a remarkable inner beauty. Eliezer recognized her kindness, pleasant demeanor, humility, vitality, and strong work ethic. Consider this: a single thirsty camel can consume up to 40 gallons of water at one time. This meant Rebekah had to exceed expectations, going the extra mile to ensure the camels were well taken care of. She could have easily said, “Sir, here’s some water for you; you can fetch water for your camels because I need to get home,” offering only the bare minimum. Instead, she chose to invest her time and effort by making sure the camels were also quenched. This was no small task, as she had to draw the water manually, one bucket at a time, and place it in the trough.

 When challenges arise in your marriage, how far will you go to support your husband’s dreams, ambitions, or ministry by giving him a drink? After the first, second, or third bucket, does your flesh begin to feel resentful suggesting, “Why am I doing all the work while he is just resting and drinking? What about my dreams, ambitions, and ministry? Doesn’t he see I’m tired and thirsty too?

We often miss a profound truth: when we lift and support those around us, especially our spouse, God is at work fulfilling our innermost desires while guiding us to prioritize others. However, when we become too focused on our own needs and wants, we risk overlooking these divine gifts. Instead of tallying how many times we’ve drawn up a bucket, draw your focus on, offering a prayer of blessing as you pour each drink.

Then scripture takes it further and emphasizes “camels” as plural, suggesting she could have spent the entire day at the well! Eliezer continued by pressing in with his inquiry, “Whose daughter are you? (Gen. 24:23) Are you a child of God? Have you been reborn into Christ’s family?” God requires more than humble servants’ hearts; He also wants to know what kingdom we belong to.

It’s essential to begin to consider the condition of our inner selves. True inner beauty emerges when we invite the Holy Spirit to awaken the qualities of the Holy Spirit Fruit of His Spirit within us:” …love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.” (Gal. 5:22-23) Rebekah’s servant’s heart was evident to Eliezer, confirming that she was indeed the woman God intended her to be for Jacob. Are you that woman? Are you His Bride?

PRAYER:

Isaiah 54:4-5 reassures us, “Fear not; you will no longer live in shame. Don’t be afraid; there is no more disgrace for you. You will no longer remember the shame of your youth and the sorrows of widowhood. For your Creator will be your husband, the Lord of Heaven’s Armies is his name! He is your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel, the God of all the earth.”

Father, I believe, I am your beloved daughter, in whom, You are well pleased. Thank you, for seeing me how I will be, not according to who I am today. I thank you, Father!! Let this scripture resonate in your heart. Now give God praise and glory! Amen!

ZIPPORAH

On the way to Egypt, at a place where Moses and his family had stopped for the night, the Lord confronted him and was about to kill him. ²⁵ But Moses’ wife, Zipporah, took a flint knife and circumcised her son. She touched his feet^[a] with the foreskin and said, “Now you are a bridegroom of blood to me.” ²⁶ (When she said “a bridegroom of blood,” she was referring to the circumcision.) After that, the Lord left him alone. Exodus 4:24-26

In this passage, God spoke to Moses after his family set out on their mission to “deliver His people from Egypt.” One might wonder why Moses didn’t take a moment to consider his family’s well-being before starting this journey. This scripture serves as a powerful reminder of the importance of prioritizing “ministry beginning at home” before moving forward. It requires us to pause and pray, “Lord, is there anything in my life or my family’s life that needs attention before we begin our journey?” While this may seem straightforward and obvious, in the excitement of our calling, we often overlook these crucial inquiries.  

When Zipporah said, “Now you are a bridegroom of blood to me,”  this statement grabbed my attention.  If you read this verse in the AMPC Bible it states that “Along the way at a [resting] place, the Lord met [Moses] and sought to kill him [made him acutely and almost fatally ill.] [Now apparently he had failed to circumcise one of his sons, his wife being opposed to it; but seeing his life in such danger] Zipporah took a flint knife and cut off the foreskin of her son and cast it to touch [Moses’] feet, and said, Surely a husband of blood you are to me.!” (vs. 24-25)

In Jewish tradition, a Mohel is the one designated to carry out circumcision, and any other person performing the act is deemed invalid, even if a rabbi is present. So, what made this particular act in the scripture permissible? Was this Zipporah’s punishment for not allowing her husband to lead? Was the blood on her hands a picture of correction? These ideas may seem harsh, but we must understand the influence we carry as a spouse. Do you currently have blood on your hands because you still choose to be disobedient within your marriage? It’s not about who does or doesn’t do what, instead, it’s about obedience! Are you a wife who encourages your spouse to be obedient even if it costs you something?

Let’s consider the role of the wife in this scenario. Her reaction seems to stem from her strong conviction against circumcising their son, which ultimately led to her husband suffering a severe, nearly life-threatening illness as a result of his disobedience. This defiance is significant because he chose to prioritize his wife’s wishes over God’s divine instruction. Zipporah has a background of Midianite heritage. For her, circumcision represented a customary rite marking a young man’s transition into marriage, while the Hebrews viewed it as a vital symbol of their covenant with God. It seems as though Zipporah didn’t fully grasp the significance of Moses’ covenant. Her familiarity with her cultural practices created a gap in their shared household beliefs.

Many couples enter marriage carrying the weight of their traditional backgrounds, rather than circumcising those influences so they can begin creating their unique traditions and ministry within their new marriage covenant. Instead, we bring our respective traditions into the relationship, expecting the husband to harmonize everything seamlessly.

Our families must be in order. Our family dynamics can become chaotic due to our “good intentions.” Instead of allowing our spouse to take the lead, we sometimes rush ahead, which can lead to them stepping back over time, and in turn, they let us take control. As easy as this is for us to do, DON’T! This shows our spouse, kids, and others an independent attitude of,  “I don’t need your father, or I don’t need your mother, I can lead this household on my own.” This will start to unravel our families because it creates an open door of division instead of being a household within a covenant.

The core concern is that God entrusts man with the responsibility for the family’s well-being, as illustrated in this narrative. Regardless of personal decisions, God communicated directly with Moses. If we genuinely support and have faith in our husbands, we should strive to do everything we can to enable them to thrive in the sight of the Lord. This commitment brings joy to our Heavenly Father, as we recognize that our desires are fulfilled when we prioritize our spouse.

A helpmate is not a term that belittles; rather, it reveals a powerful truth. We witness nations falling apart due to disobedience to God’s law. What often goes unnoticed is that the fate of our families and spouse is significantly shaped by our actions-that’s the incredible power and responsibility we hold as wives. Are you a helpmate who guides your family toward triumph, or do you lead them into despair? Our adversary seeks to keep us from grasping this truth because it would transform the understanding of a woman’s role within “ The Marriage Covenant.” In today’s society, so many believe the lie that being a wife requires being submissively ruled by a husband. We are indeed called to submit to our husband, yet we are also called to submit to the authority of Christ, and both of us should line up with the Word of God. This means our position as a wife is determined by how we position our husband first and vice versa.

In this critical moment, Zipporah understood the need to follow God’s command, knowing that her husband would suffer severe repercussions otherwise. She took action by circumcising their son, reinforcing their family’s commitment back to God. This choice left her with blood on her hands, as she had not allowed Moses to take the lead in their home. What choices are you making that are causing you to bear the weight of disobedience? Often, we hastily point fingers at our husbands when things are out of order in our household. I urge you to reflect on the word curses you may have spoken over your spouse and renounce them. This is very important!

Obedience plays a crucial role in every aspect of our lives, especially within our home. The scriptures highlight the rewards that come with obedience: “If you fully obey the Lord your God and carefully keep all his commands that I am giving you today, the Lord your God will set you high above all the nations of the world. You will experience all these blessings if you obey the Lord your God.” (Deut. 28:1-2) Following God’s command opens the door to His blessing, as He honors those who choose to obey Him. When God confronted Moses regarding his failures in upholding the practice of circumcision, may have stemmed from his wife’s influence or his shortcomings in leadership. Whatever the reason, we need to make sure we are not the cause of our husband’s disobedience to the will of the Father.

Communication plays a crucial role in a successful marriage! When a family shares a mission, they collectively grasp their purpose. This unity creates an environment of partnership and trust. Family members recognize that your words serve to correct, uplift, nurture, and guide them along the right path. This approach is essential for establishing harmony, structure, and a clear direction for everyone involved. It’s not just the responsibility of mom and dad; it’s truly “a family on a mission.” Adopting this mindset encourages us to be more deliberate in maintaining order within our home. James 4:17 states, “So any person who knows what is right to do but does not do it, to him it is sin.” How can we disciple others by leading them to God if our own family doesn’t follow the same commandments? The Lord needed Moses to understand this concept before He sent Moses to set His people free!” How can we guide others toward God if our own family doesn’t adhere to the same principles? The Lord needed Moses to comprehend this idea before sending him to liberate His people! Correction is needed before God can use us to our full potential.

Are you teaching your family how to submit to authority or rebel against authority? If rebellion is in the home or your heart, it will also reflect outside the home! What kind of ministry are you producing -Heaven or hell? What kind of atmosphere do you dwell in -speak life or speak death? Is your household freely under authority? Is your family producing fruit? Are your spouse and children excited to be a part of what you do, or do you pull them around and threaten them to fake it? Ministry outside the home is a wonderful thing when we are reproducing good fruit. This requires, making our family the most important ministry first!

PRAYER:

I encourage you to explore this blog and seek the guidance of the Holy Spirit concerning any areas of your life where you feel the need for repentance, forgiveness, or a heart’s desire for genuine submission. This journey may begin with an act of going before the Lord in repentance. Then engage in open conversation with your spouse, children, or others close to you. Take your time and allow the Holy Spirit to reveal where you might have introduced chaos, conflict, or a controlling spirit within yourself and your family. What doors did you allow opened through your words or attitude? Ask for His help in discerning whether your actions align with the kingdom of heaven or the kingdom of darkness. While this may feel overwhelming, it’s essential to ensure that we are not leading ourselves or others astray. When you feel ready, ask the Holy Spirit if there is any blood on your hands due to disobedience, spirit of independence, or rebellion. If there is, renounce it, acknowledge it, bring it to the cross, and invite the Holy Spirit to renew you and fill you in those areas. Be still in prayer and listen closely to His voice. Once you finish praying, express your gratitude because he is a good, good, Father. Amen!

JOCHEDED

About this time, a man and woman from the tribe of Levi got married. ² The woman became pregnant and gave birth to a son. She saw that he was a special baby and kept him hidden for three months. ³ But when she could no longer hide him, she got a basket made of papyrus reeds and waterproofed it with tar and pitch. She put the baby in the basket and laid it among the reeds along the bank of the Nile River.”  Exodus 2:1-3

A woman of God is filled with Joy at the prospect of welcoming a baby boy, even during a challenging season. In the face of uncertainty, she decided to place her trust in God regarding her son’s future. Trusting God required her to hold her son’s life loosely, which required her to embrace the unknown. She understood God’s timing is flawless, His plans are always timely, and they lead to divine opportunities, no matter the new decree presented.

In times of trial or difficulty, our doubts can open the door for the enemy to plant seeds of uncertainty. It often starts with familiar fears that may stem from our past, present, or even the unknown of our future. Before we know it, we find ourselves overanalyzing situations, forgetting that it was God who first placed His blessing upon us! When we let fear challenge the intentions behind God’s actions, we begin to tighten our hold on control. This behavior creates a stronghold rooted in the “fears of uncertainty.” It’s a moment when negative thought patterns, prideful attitudes, or external influences leave a deep mark on the heart and mind of a believer. This shift happens when we no longer trust God’s perfect plan during challenging moments.

Do you ever feel overwhelmed by circumstances beyond your grasp? It’s important to be cautious about the idea of control. When we unknowingly activate this stronghold, we find ourselves gripping tighter, believing we can regain our footing. The more we try to hold on, the more we risk losing our grip entirely.

By choosing to approach situations loosely, we communicate to God, “I trust you, even if it makes no sense through my own understanding.” Isaiah 55:8 states, “My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the Lord. And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine. For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.”

Think about the day you dedicated your child back to Christ. What significance did that dedication hold? We publicly declare to hold on to our child loosely while “directing your children onto the right path and when they are older, they will not leave it.” (Proverbs 22:6) Jochebed made the profound choice to return her child to God by releasing him, even if it meant her plans were set aside. She hid her son and placed him in a small papyrus basket, setting him adrift in the river. She entrusted God with her son’s future. As she watched him float away, she surrendered him to God’s will, grateful for the blessing of motherhood. She walked away, confident that God would fulfill His promises for both her and her son. While this act may have seemed illogical in the physical realm, it was a spiritual decision that allowed God to work out His purpose for Moses, his family, and the people of Israel. This act served to inspire others around her to the powerful lesson of trusting God.

In the natural, circumstances may seem impossible, but if we stop for a moment, repent of our lack of trust (control), loosen our grip, and concentrate on God, we can begin to see His plan. Psalms 25:4-6 states, “Show me the right path, O Lord; point out the road for me to follow. Lead me by your truth and teach me, for you are the God who saves me. All day long, I put my hope in you.”

I encourage you to pay attention to how you react. Do your emotions reveal your fears rather than the actual challenges you face? The story of Jochebed serves as a powerful example of how to navigate through difficult times. She sets aside her need to control, recognizing that true obedience aligns with God’s will. By releasing our grip, we place our trust in Him, allowing God to act on our behalf. Like Jochebed, we can confidently move forward, knowing God will fulfill His promise! Sometimes the answers to our situation require the courageous act of letting go!”

In which area of your life do you find it challenging to place your trust in God, whether they are significant or minor? What is the root behind you clinging so firmly? Is there an experience or a familiar situation that influences your response? Does your behavior reflect that state of your heart? How do you react when encouraged to release something or someone? What feelings arise in those moments? Are you holding on tightly because it defines who you are, maintains your current situation, or perhaps even relates to a title you hold? None of these factors should hinder us from fulfilling the will of the Father!

Prayer:

We come before you, Father, asking for your forgiveness for the times we’ve read your Word yet overlooked the profound power in each story. Thank you for opening our eyes and ears to the truths found within your teachings. Today, I choose to release everything you have asked me to let go of over the years. Take this time to list them…and give them back to God…We repent for our moments of doubt in your promises and for our desire to maintain control. Forgive us for being disobedient to the Holy Spirit. Align my heart with yours so that I may fulfill your will by placing my trust in you completely. Forgive me for allowing the familiar situation to provoke fear or uncertainty in my responses. Help me to stop questioning your intentions. I ask that you reveal any “open doors” from my past that lead me to cling too tightly to what is at hand. Ask the Holy Spirit to bring these things to your mind and wait….. Then renounce them…. I choose to move forward, knowing that no matter what happens, you are always a good, good, Father. We give you all the glory, honor, and praise, in Jesus’ Name, I let it go!! Amen!